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How the child's age affects adoption

How the child's age affects adoption



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Surely when you have told people around you that you are waiting for an adoption they have asked you many questions: why are you doing it, where is the child from, how long does it take ... and how old is it going to be? And regarding the latter, they will have told you that the smaller the better.

There is a general belief that the younger the child, the easier the adoption will be, and this is a… half truth. What is certain is that the older the child, the more difficult it is to find a family for him and much more if he is accompanied by brothers or sisters.

1. Has no conscious memory. The fact that the child does not remember things assures you that he will not tell you about his biological family, he will not compare you with his mother or father from before, his brothers, his toys ...

2. He does not have 'bad habits'. By bad habits we understand customs of their place of origin referring to hygiene, food, response to events, displays of affection ... which will make it easier for you to teach them the importance of bathing, eating vegetables, kissing for good ninght...

3. Babies are more tender than older children. Everyone loves babies, everything they do is funny… and they make you want to take care of them more. Older children already have manias, behaviors that we cannot control, that are spontaneous and that often need to be corrected. In addition, they already have their personality formed, their character, their tastes and preferences are defined ...

4. Parents feel like they are more yours. Having the child since childhood allows you to have the peace of mind that there is nothing in his life that you do not know and identify beforehand what a cry means, what scares him ...

5. We can make up shortfalls sooner. By having a smaller child you will have the peace of mind that since he is with you he has had all the necessary care: vaccines, diet, school, pampering ...

6. He is not so emotionally hurt: although the fact of having been adopted will go with him his whole life, the damage will be less than if, in addition, he has gone through several centers, foster families ...

1. You know what an adoption is and what it consists of. The child can now give his opinion if he likes you as parents or not, something very important to take into account in the legal formalization of the adoption.

2. You can treat yourself to yourself without having to make an effort to find the adaptation of the language or the contents as if you had to talk with a younger child. You can talk about anything more calmly and knowing that you can reason to explain how your family works. They can express themselves freely to tell you what they like, what they don't like, what scares them… so that you can help them adjust.

3. You can share more activities, more hobbies than when a child is younger.

4. Is more independent and autonomous. You do not need continuous supervision like a baby and it is very likely that you have learned to fend for yourself.

5. He knows his own history, his biological parents, so even though he has pending issues from his previous life, he has more answers than younger children who are given up for adoption.

6. Also know your own medical history: You can tell us if you have any allergies, know what is wrong with you, if you have had a fracture, an operation ...

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